Your life is made up of a series of choices. For many of us, having a choice means that there are right and wrong answers. But I don’t think that’s true.
When I was in university, at the end of my third year of a four year program, I had the option to take an extra year to do an internship. I had the choice to either take the extra year or finish my degree earlier. There are benefits and negatives to each option that I considered, and I chose to do an internship. I’ll never know what would have happened if I finished earlier. But the truth is that I don’t care.
I don’t wonder what would have happened if I did one thing or another. There’s no limit to the different choices I could have made, but didn’t. If I spent all my time thinking about what didn’t happen, I’d miss out on what is happening now.
You may think, “well, if you had graduated a year earlier and gotten the same job, you’d save a year of time”. From a career perspective, that may be true. But, had I done that there’s no guarantee I’d have the same job. Even if I had gotten the same job, I can’t replace the experiences I had that year, the people I met, the places I went to, and so on.
Everything I have done makes me who I am, if I changed what I did in the past, I wouldn’t be me. I would be someone else.